We all have a Facebook profile. At least most of us. We use it for many purposes that vary from playing games to finding out what our friends, acquaintances, and perfect strangers are doing. Facebook has a way of making you feel connected with people that you may not see on a daily basis. It makes the world feel smaller and can be a great way to find that long lost friend who you lost contact with years ago. Facebook gives you the opportunity to share your relationship status with the world. Are you single? Is it complicated? Are you in a relationship? Or maybe a domestic partnership? It has gotten to the point that many couples can’t wait to make their relationship “Facebook Official.” After deciding to be in a relationship they race to their respective computers/phone/other device and update their relationship status and tell the world that they now in a relationship with a significant other. This post can be commented on or “liked” by their friends. But at what point is it no longer cool to update your relationships status? Should a couple who has a relationship on the rocks update their relationship status to “Complicated?” Does anyone else have a right to know that you are having problems in your marriage? While I don’t think that’s the case, I know that a lot of people believe differently and use Facebook to post about the other individual and give others information about the fights that they’ve had. This sucks other people into what is going and can be even more detrimental for the relationships. Next time you go to update your relationship status, think. Then think again.
Monthly Archives: February 2013
Getting yourself together
The thought occurred to me today that in today’s society, many “older” people are advising the younger generation to get themselves together before they seek to find a potential mate. It’s a known fact that people are getting married at older ages. Some of this has been blamed on the economy and the fact that maturity these days seems to be a process that is severely delayed in young adults. But at what point has one “gotten themselves together” to the point that they are deemed “ready” for a relationship? Is there some kind of checklist that requires you to have a list a qualities? So many people claim that they are staying single because they want to work on themselves but in many ways that seems like BS to me. While I do think that there should be a period of time when you can be OK being alone, I think that there are things that you get from a relationship that you won’t get by being alone. Our close relationships are such an indication of who we are and we learn a wealth of information about ourselves from our close relationships. So next time you tell yourself that you’re single because you want to get your stuff together or you want to get more settled in your career/job/school/fill in the blank, ask yourself if it’s just plain fear that’s holding you back.
The Beginning
I can imagine that several things come to mind when you think about the beginning of something. I think of the beginning of spring, the beginning of a new relationship, even the beginning of school or a new career. All those examples mark a transition from one period of time to another or one part of life to another. In my experience, new beginnings have always been marked with a choice or a situation where I was forced to get outside of my comfort zone. I was require to do something or go somewhere that I have never done or gone before. One of the important things that I’ve learned is to keep calm, and then adjust as necessary. It is so easy to let fear or intimidation affect your choices but I have found that something as simple as taking a few deep breaths can help me in thinking more clearly. What are some beginnings that you’ve experienced?
Alisha's Angle 