Spaghetti thoughts

I remember reading somewhere that men are like waffles because they can easily compartmentalize while women are similar to spaghetti because everything is connected in some way. Once again I’ve relocated and along with the change in location has come a renewed commitment to be more healthier after I was challenged to make better choices. There’s this story in the Bible about a guy that had a skin disease and he was told to wash in a muddy river 7 times. The guy almost turned around and went home because he was expecting to be told to do something big and the remedy was just too simple. However, his maid convinced him to do it and it worked. In a world of fad diets, special equipment, and fancy fitness plans that consume your life, there still isn’t a substitute for eating healthy and exercising regularly. It’s a solution that seems too simple to a lot of people so they spend money (sometime unnecessarily) in the hope that it will take the place of hard work and discipline. I’ve learned more about discipline in these last few weeks than I have in a long while. It’s the same kind of internal motivation that I had to use in order to finally finish my dissertation and it’s really uncomfortable. However, it’s the only way to get the results that I want. It’s not something that I can delegate or outsource to anyone else. Like most decisions to make some significant changes, the question is, “How bad do you want it?” I’ve always admired people who genuinely enjoy working out but as I’ve been more consistent I can see how it can become a habit–regardless of the degree of “like.” I’m looking forward to seeing how this turns out despite the fact that it’s still uncomfortable. But anything worth doing is worth doing well and I’ve never been one to back down from a challenge.

Stop the Bashing

There are few things in life more irritating than writing something substantially long and then realizing that it didn’t save. Nevertheless, this is draft number two. Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of man bashing posts on social media and also in conversations. The problem with this is that the complaints go from “I can’t find a man” to “all men are dogs” to “I don’t need a man and I never will.” Women complain about chivalry being obsolete but fail to recognize that we had a big role in its demise. There’s an independent woman attitude but below it is insecurity and sadness. Women who say that men are all dogs do themselves a huge disservice. They apparently think that their situations will be inclined to change after talking about the horrible mistakes of the last man they dated. The truth of the matter is that if every man you’ve dated has done you wrong, you’re the common denominator. YOU are the problem. While you can’t be responsible for the actions of others, you can decide how you respond to them and what role they play in your life. Condemning a whole gender because of the actions of a few is not only pointless but shows everyone your lack of maturity. It’s not cute or funny to do it because you’re setting yourself up to not appreciate a good man if he comes. Women complain that there aren’t any good man left but that isn’t true. Many times they’re hiding in the emotional no-fly zone called the friendzone and are just disregarded. You’re not likely to find a good man if you continue bashing all men. If all your girlfriends are single, fat, and bitter, chances are that you’ll end up as at least one of those things. But regardless of all that, man bashing just doesn’t make sense and at the end of the day, it’s just not productive.