I saw this article and found it so intriguing. I’ve been gathering a ton of references related to divorces and their causes for the never-ending literature review portion of my dissertation. One thing that is rarely talked about is the fact that there is somewhat of a lottery when you have a kid. You don’t know what you’re getting. While the child is a reflection of both parents to varying degrees, there’s no guarantee that your child will grow up to be a productive member of society and not a criminal. I’m not against loyalty to children but I think one’s significant other should also take priority (within reason). I think of all the couples who divorce after 20 to 40 years of marriage with one of the reasons being that they don’t know each other anymore because they made their entire lives about their children and didn’t grow together.