How American parenting is killing the American marriage

I saw this article and found it so intriguing. I’ve been gathering a ton of references related to divorces and their causes for the never-ending literature review portion of my dissertation. One thing that is rarely talked about is the fact that there is somewhat of a lottery when you have a kid. You don’t know what you’re getting. While the child is a reflection of both parents to varying degrees, there’s no guarantee that your child will grow up to be a productive member of society and not a criminal. I’m not against loyalty to children but I think one’s significant other should also take priority (within reason). I think of all the couples who divorce after 20 to 40 years of marriage with one of the reasons being that they don’t know each other anymore because they made their entire lives about their children and didn’t grow together.

Happiness and Crisis Workers

I saw this CNN article and found it pretty relevant to my life because I work in a crisis type of position. You can read the article here.¬†One thing that was interesting was the fact that many social workers and crisis counselors report that they like their job. This wasn’t surprising to me because despite all the craziness and unpredictability of my job, I don’t mind it. People get into a helping profession for a variety of reasons. In my case, I can’t NOT help people and I figured that I might as well have a job that allows me to do that. I’ve had stressful jobs in the field of social work before, but nothing comes close to the emotional drain from crisis work. It’s the kind of job that make you want to take a month long vacation after every shift. However, it’s also meaningful and you get the chance to encounter people from various walks of life and separate those who truly want help from those who don’t want any help. The article noted some great ways to deal with the stress that comes along from constantly working with people who facing some pretty big life challenges. There was an article I read not too long ago about a email that was intercepted from a social worker to another that contained some inappropriate humor that caused a public outcry. While the things crisis counselors deal with is not a laughing matter, sometimes you have to see the humor in things. It’s similar to the whole idea of laughing instead of crying as you see the dark side of humanity over and over again. It’s the kind of job that has really high highs with lows that are just as dramatic. The ability to disconnect is so important in this kind of field and I think it’s the reason why there’s an abundance of impromptu happy hours between colleagues who work in the field. All that being said, it’s a fun but hard job and I honestly believe that to have longevity in this type of field you have to have a pretty effective way of taking care of yourself so that you don’t get burned out.